Updated: Nov 23, 2021
"Tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it... yet." - Anne of Green Gables.
I was on a walk recently, enjoying the day. It was cool, but the sun was shining brightly. Things were good. I was happy and content at the moment. But instantly, my mind wandered to something from my recent past, and I could feel that mood shift starting.
Pulling yourself out of the negative is such a difficult thing to do. It is so easy to spend time dwelling on all the things that have gone wrong in life. I tend to think about things I said or did for years. But the result is that it can eat away at your soul and your heart. It constantly weighs on you even if you don't know it. As you build on those negatives, it creates pain and inflammation. It's like an unseen wound that changes how you see yourself in the world. It can feed that guilt I was talking about last week.
What works for me is letting go of the negativity. Letting go of those negative thoughts from the past isn't easy, especially when you see those moments as reflections of yourself. I acknowledge that we need to look at our histories, as keeping those memories is essential in guiding you forward. They made you the awesome person you are.
Of course, looking at the past and embracing what it has made you is a good thing. It moulds us into the fantastic beings that we are now in this moment. Make no mistake; you are a remarkable being. Don't ever think you aren't unique and worthy.
What I'm talking about is holding on to those things so you can't move forward. It can take time and effort to figure out what things in our past guide our current and future choices. Holding on to the past can mean that there is no movement forward into a world of possibilities.
There is also a fine line about looking too far ahead. Of course, if you are planning a holiday or purchasing a house, you need to prepare. You need to figure out how you need to get from A to Z. What I'm talking about in terms of looking too far ahead is when you see where you want to go, and it seems impossible to get there. It can create this sense of dread when you haven't gotten closer. You can feel like a failure and give up on even trying.
For me, my future seemed to be an abstract dream that somehow I would magically get to sooner or later. There was the intent with no actual plan. As someone all about organizing and planning, it is ironic that I would do anything with any real direction. I ended up feeling overwhelmed, and I would walk away from everything.
So how do I see my success? I have worked at living in the now, letting go of the past and embracing the future, whatever it holds as I am in this very moment. Of course, I learn from the past the good, bad and ugly. But to move forward in a happy, productive way, I need to be present right now. In turn, it means I can start tomorrow as a new day with no mistakes in it..yet!